Over the course of the past six very unusual months, I have come to realize that I have spent much of the time completely absent from the present moment. My thoughts have either circled continually around the list of things which are no longer part of my “normal” routine or I have waded off into the deep waters of “what if.” Either way, I have not been fully present to the people in my life. Dr. Brene Brown, renowned researcher and author, offers this deep wisdom:
“Connection is why we are here. We are hardwired to connect with others. Connection gives purpose and meaning to our lives and without it there is suffering.” While there are valuable lessons to be learned from the past, continually dwelling there, where nothing can be changed, keeps us from fully engaging NOW. The same can be said of fixating on the future, which refuses to be controlled despite our best efforts. The daily challenge then is to intentionally choose to live firmly in the NOW, participating fully in the beautiful gift of connection with the people in our lives. I love the following list of powerful points of connection.
ONE: How Many People Does It Take to Make a Difference?
If you have childhood friends worth calling,
call them now.
If there are children in your life
(nieces, nephews, children of friends), give them the positive experiences you may have missed as a child,
and do it now.
If you have family or friends to forgive,
forgive them now.
If your mother, father, sister, or brother is still alive, start a fresh new relationship with them
and do it now.
If you have special talents, gifts, abilities, or energies to give,
give them now.
If there’s a cause in your community
worth standing up for, worth fighting for,
fight for it now.
If there’s a dream persistently calling to you,
follow it now.
If you can help make someone else’s dream come true,
help it come true now.
If there is some kindness you can show the people around you,
show it now.
And now faith, hope and love abide, these three;
and the greatest of these
I Corinthians 13:13