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Letting Go

Letting Go

The transformative idea of Letting Go.

by Jan Cooke on August 18, 2020

Some twenty years ago, I found myself in the office of a kind, compassionate Wizard of Life who graciously passed along to me much-needed tools to help navigate a particularly rough patch of life’s road. This was quite an unexpected turn of events, as I had the mountain of self-help books to prove I was a willing student of self-improvement. However, I found myself poorly equipped to handle post-divorce complexities, blended family daily drama, and surprising turns in my career path. Plus, I had just found out that my husband of 10 years could actually cook! Now, when I occasionally pop in for a check-up (aka address a problem), my wonderful therapist will invariably say to me, “Jan, you are forgetting the THREE Cs... Again.” I can attest that if you accept the deep truth of the THREE Cs, your life will be forever changed for the better:

  • You cannot Control anyone but yourself. 
  • You cannot Change anyone but yourself. 
  • You Cannot Cure anyone but yourself. 

Which brings us to the transformative idea of Letting Go. 

Letting Go

(The Little Book of Letting Go - High Prather)

Jesus called a child to himself and set him before them saying,
“Truly I say to you, unless you change and become like little children,
you will not enter the Kingdom of Heaven.”
Matthew 18:2-3


To watch young children at play is to receive a lesson in happiness.
They are completely present, totally in the moment,
with no hint of judging the worthiness of their playmates
or carrying the torment of self-doubt.
To replicate a childlike approach to happiness
is not to behave as children behave,
but to see as children see.
It is letting go
of narrow perceptions and habitual responses.
It is relaxing and restfully acknowledging
that the people around us
are the way they are
and that we
are here with them.
To “become like a little child”
is merely
to relinquish our need to
judge all things,
change all things
and be right on all occasions.


There are only three things you need to let go of:
Judging,
Controlling,
and Being Right.
Release these three and you will have
the whole mind and twinkly heart of a child.


The fruit of the Spirit is
love, joy, peace, patience,
kindness, generosity, faithfulness,
gentleness, and self-control.
Galatians 5:22

Finally, beloved,
whatever is true, whatever is honorable,
whatever is pure, whatever is pleasing,
whatever is commendable,
if there is any excellence
and if there is anything worthy of praise,
think on these things.
Philippians 4:8

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